What if we've been wronged?

This week we had a beautiful discussion on wrongs, both perceived and real. We talked about how we react to being wronged, whether we were truly wronged or we just imagined ourselves to be.

We can see the two result of being wronged in the Book of Mormon. We know that Laman and Lemuel had a hard time when they traveled to the Americas from Jerusalem. They felt that they had been wronged because of all that they had to endure. They murmured and refused to keep the faith. Their perceived wrongs led them to feel wrath. This wrath festered and grew into hate. Later, (about 413 years later) the descendants of Laman and Lemuel still hate Nephi's people because of these perceived wrongs. How long can someone hold a grudge?

On the other hand, Nephi was actually wronged by his brethren. They treated him terribly. Laman and Lemuel tried to kill him several times. Nephi, however, did not become wrathful because of his wrongs. Being wronged led him to love more.

What side will we choose if we are wronged?